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Here’s why you don’t want to leave important decisions to the end of the day… Each morning, we wake up with a finite amount of willpower (which some call the ‘active self’). With every decision that we make throughout the day, and with all the stressors we face, this willpower (our ‘active self’) is depleted bit by bit. By the time we get to the evening, especially if it’s been a highly stressful day, or we’re had to make a lot of complex decisions, our cup is usually near empty. This could lead to: – difficulty making the right decisions, – struggling to weigh up trade-offs between two or more options, – impulse buying, or –other avoidance behaviors. So, where possible, save the complex and important decisions to the following morning when your cup of willpower has been restored, your battery recharged and your ‘active self’ replenished. What do you think about this? Have you experienced it? Share your thoughts in the comments! 👇
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“We are product of our past, but we don’t have to be a prisoner to it.” Your mid-week reminder: reclaim control of your thoughts, your choices, your actions. Align with the person you want to be, rather than feeling trapped by your history. It’s never too late to shape your future. It starts with the choices you make today.
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Where do you fall on the Courage versus Humanness scale? ⚖️ Let me break it down for you… Humanness is about the ‘human’ factor: empathy, kindness, consideration, aka ‘compassionateness’ or the ‘humane orientation’ in research (House et al., 2002; Seco & Lopez, 2014). The Courage-factor is about being assertive and standing up for yourself and for what’s right. You need to balance both. ⚖️ By striking the right balance between Humanness and Courage, you’ll create healthy and productive relationship at work (and at home!). P.S. Where do you fall on the courage vs humanness scale? (I’m definitely naturally higher on warmth, but I’ve been on a journey to elevate my courage factor). __________ 📖 This model first appeared as the ‘Compassion-Assertiveness Matrix in the context of Leader Trust: •Seco, V. M. M., & Lopes, M. P. (2014). Between compassionateness and assertiveness: A trust matrix for leaders. Journal of Industrial Engineering and Management (JIEM), 7(3), 622-644. Various authors & thought leaders have shared versions of similar models, including Simon Sinek and Kim Scott, who’ve applied the matrix to their own approaches to leadership, management, and communication. Similar dimensions are explored in cross-cultural GLOBE Project studies, incl. from Brodbeck & colleagues (2002), Schlösser & colleagues, and another paper from House & colleagues (2002). Understanding cultures & implicit leadership theories… Journal of World Business, 37(1), 3-10. #leadership #leadershiptips #career #careertips #careerskills #courage #bravery #couragemindset #psychologicalsafety #keynote #keynotespeaker #speaker #publicspeaking #publicspeaker
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Have you ever learned something only to forget it within days? 🤔 In the 1880s, Ebbinghaus pioneered memory studies and discovered the Forgetting Curve, showing how memories fade quickly. For “non-meaningful” information (e.g. work presentations or interview answers), our brains can discard it in just days — just 3 days, according to research. There’s some good news here– All is not lost! If you want to remember something longer than just 3 days, Chun & Heo (2018) discovered an optimal review frequency to help you retain the content. After you first learn whatever it is you want to remember, 1️⃣ Review it on Day 1 3️⃣ Review it on Day 3 6️⃣ And review it again on Day 6 Voilà! The secret to memory mastery. 💪 What techniques do you find effective for boosting your memory and retaining information? Share your tips in the comments 👇 _________ 📖 Reference: • Chun, B. A., & Heo, H. J. (2018, January). The effect of flipped learning on academic performance as an innovative method for overcoming ebbinghaus’ forgetting curve. In Proceedings of the 6th International Conference on Information and Education Technology (pp. 56-60). • Murre, J. M., & Dros, J. (2015). Replication and analysis of Ebbinghaus’ forgetting curve. PloS one, 10(7), e0120644.
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Want to be a better listener? Ask better questions 🙋♀️ Here are 3 critical question types that have transformed the way I think and the way I listen: 1️⃣ Clarification: Always seek to understand first. ⇢ ‘What do you mean by X?’ ⇢ ‘What I understand is [summarise]. Is that correct?’ 2️⃣ Reason & Evidence: Dig deeper into the ‘whys.’ ⇢ ‘What led you to that perspective?’ ⇢ ‘What other information might we need?’ 3️⃣ Implications Explore the consequences and possibilities. ⇢ ‘What effect would that have?’ ⇢ ‘If that happened, what else would happen as a result?’ P.S. What’s your best tip to demonstrate active listening? 👇 #criticalthinking #communication
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The secret to greater personal magnetism and charm could lie in a simple pause… Agree? Disagree? Have you tried this? Share your thoughts in the comments! 👇 _______ #communication #charm #charisma #confidence #interviews #presentation
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Ever caught yourself over-apologizing at work? You’re in good company. But there’s a risk… Those unnecessary “sorries” can actually chip away at your credibility, a pitfall that could be costing you more than you realize. This is especially the case if you’re already battling confidence issues or if your credibility is in question (think being the newest person on a team, the most junior, a new leader, or part of a minority). Sincere apologies absolutely have a time and place, but over-apologizing can harm you. When you shift to appreciation, it can change the whole dynamic– both how you feel, and how the other person sees you. So, if you’re an over-apologizer, here are five go-to responses you can give instead of an unnecessary impulsive “sorry!” Save the apologies for when you truly mean it. P.S. Do you over-apologise? _______ ➡️ Grab my Free Communication Guide for 7 must-know tweaks to elevate how you communicate. Link in my profile/bio #overapologies #sorrynotsorry #professionalcommunication #communication #career #corporate #9to5
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