a super simple way to increase your confidence and personal magnetism comes down to what i call the three s p three second pause you might have noticed that people who rate highly on charisma have this quiet confidence about them if you've ever watched an interview with one you'll know that they often pause before answering a question they remain silent but maintain eye contact for around three seconds not only does it convey confidence and self assuredness it also gives them time to collect their thoughts to take a breath and deliver a well-considered response this is a great tip for professional environments or if you experience interaction anxiety where you blurt out the first thing that comes to your mind try the power of three sb