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Here are 3 steps I took to heal ↓ First, what is the mother wound? The mother wound is inherited pain, trauma, and dysfunctional coping mechanisms that are passed down from our mother. Generally, daughters will bear these burdens more often. Common signs of a mother wound are: low self-esteem / self-worth, co-dependency or hyper-independence, fear of rejection and abandonment, self-sabotaging behaviours such as substance abuse, self-harming, boundary issues, or difficulties in expressing emotions. 🦋 Here are 3 steps I took to heal these aspects of myself: 🦋 1️⃣ Release + Accept When I realized that my mother would never be the mom I want her to be, I released all expectations and began to simply accept her for the person that she is. Our mothers were once young girls with big dreams who were learning, growing, and maybe not healing. ❤️🩹 We only know the woman we see today. But what made her this way? We’ll never know our mother’s upbringing, stories, or trauma. The best we can do is offer grace and forgiveness for our mother’s shortcomings. This alone will bring you so much peace. 🫶🏽 2️⃣ Reparent yourself The best thing I did for myself during my toughest times was start talking to myself like I was my own parent. Your inner parent can be anything you need. Your inner parent can be kind, loving, and gentle. You can find safety with your inner parent. 3️⃣ Treat my mother like a Queen How can we honor, respect, and nurture women in this world without first doing that for the woman who brought us into the world.? Regardless of the pain the relationship with my mom had brought me, she is my portal - and nothing will top that. My mentality on this is: maybe my mom never received the love she deserved. So, if I have more than enough love to give I will surely give it all to her. I’ll treat my mom like the Queen I pray my future children will treat me as. • • • 🐲❤️🔥🫶🏽
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How your choices are building blocks for your dream life ↓ Read this quick story time to help you understand the concept of the ‘self love investment’ ⬇️ Last night I was sitting in my bed, tired and sick + having PMS symptoms, with a hot bowl of soup in my hands, and just bawling my eyes out. I wanted to be taken care of. Understandably, because I was just sick and tired (literally) and felt like I had spent all day taking care of others. In that moment, instead of feeding into any negative emotions. I just took a deep breath and reminded myself of all the ways that I am taken care of: ❤️🔥 I was sitting in a warm bed that my dad built for me years ago. ❤️🔥 I had a warm bowl of nourishing soup in my hands that I had just cooked for myself. ❤️🔥 I am actively building a life for myself that I love. — That one got me. I have been ✨actively building✨ my dream life for about 2 years now. BUT I have held the same exact vision for this dream life for over 10 years. The difference in these past 2 years has been the intentional choices I’ve made in my self-love investment. 🦋 The choice I made 2 years ago to invest in a yoga teacher training makes me feel loved today. 🦋 The choice I made 1 year ago to quit my job and study healing techniques in Asia makes me feel loved today. 🦋 The choice I made yesterday to go to bed early so I wake up fresh makes me feel loved today. You see, these small choices made in pivotal moments are the literal building blocks for your future. For the ladies looking to invest in them selves today, I have a life-changing opportunity for you… Today, I have launched my first ever 9-week energy healing program called Journey Back to Self. There’s room for only 4 women in this program, as I would love to give you the individual support and attention you deserve. If you are interested in learning energy work, healing from your past, and building your dream life with the support of a community of like minded women then comment JOURNEY and I will send you a link for the application form! I am going live @5 pm EST to answer any questions you have + talk about energy work in general. See you there! 🐲❤️🔥🫶🏽
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