Here are 3 steps I took to heal ↓

First, what is the mother wound?

The mother wound is inherited pain, trauma, and dysfunctional coping mechanisms that are passed down from our mother. Generally, daughters will bear these burdens more often.

Common signs of a mother wound are:
low self-esteem / self-worth, co-dependency or hyper-independence, fear of rejection and abandonment, self-sabotaging behaviours such as substance abuse, self-harming, boundary issues, or difficulties in expressing emotions.

🦋 Here are 3 steps I took to heal these aspects of myself: 🦋

1️⃣ Release + Accept

When I realized that my mother would never be the mom I want her to be, I released all expectations and began to simply accept her for the person that she is.

Our mothers were once young girls with big dreams who were learning, growing, and maybe not healing. ❤️‍🩹

We only know the woman we see today. But what made her this way?

We’ll never know our mother’s upbringing, stories, or trauma.

The best we can do is offer grace and forgiveness for our mother’s shortcomings.

This alone will bring you so much peace. 🫶🏽

2️⃣ Reparent yourself

The best thing I did for myself during my toughest times was start talking to myself like I was my own parent.

Your inner parent can be anything you need.

Your inner parent can be kind, loving, and gentle.

You can find safety with your inner parent.

3️⃣ Treat my mother like a Queen

How can we honor, respect, and nurture women in this world without first doing that for the woman who brought us into the world.?

Regardless of the pain the relationship with my mom had brought me, she is my portal - and nothing will top that.

My mentality on this is: maybe my mom never received the love she deserved. So, if I have more than enough love to give I will surely give it all to her.

I’ll treat my mom like the Queen I pray my future children will treat me as.
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