How to Set a Boundary. Remember, we cannot control their reaction to our boundaries. We can still set them and honor them with kindness and respect. Their reaction doesn’t determine whether or boundary is too harsh or not. If you don’t feel safe to set a boundary or have this type of difficult conversation that’s a massive red flag and please speak to someone professionally about that because I care about your safety above everything else. #boundaries #relationships #marriagetip #datingadvice #anxiousattachment