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The “Scared Masculine Girl” is called a girl for a reason. (SMG)⁣ ⁣ She’s stuck in the past. She doesn’t use her wisdom, knowledge or logic that she’s learned all these years. And lastly, young kids don’t have the skill of emotional regulation. She doesn’t know how to calm herself when she’s sad, scared or mad. ⁣ ⁣ This is a skill we learn when we experience our caregivers soothe us and when we see them sooth themselves. ⁣ ⁣ So if she wasn’t attuned to when she was upset, if she was sent to her room because she was too much for her parents or if she was told “you’re ok. It’s ok” and was taught to suppress her emotions by believing that things were fine, she did not learn the most important skill of emotional regulation. ⁣ ⁣ Instead what young kids do to get their needs met is 1. ask someone else to do something for them or 2. Cry and scream until someone pays attention and she can finally be soothed. ⁣ ⁣ This is exactly what the SMG does now as an adult. ⁣ ⁣ SHE TRIES TO CONTROL PEOPLE. ⁣ ⁣ An SMG learned that action makes things happen. And of course this is true and so effective. Especially at work. ⁣ ⁣ My SMG clients are amazing at their careers. They get things done. They lead, they’re smart, they’re ambitious. ⁣ ⁣ But they try and bring those behaviors to relationships and they fail consistently. ⁣ ⁣ No one wants to be managed, yelled out, told they’re doing things wrong, fixed or changed. ⁣ ⁣ They do this with their children, friends, family and men in romantic relationships.⁣ ⁣ Control is what she uses to get people to change instead of HER recognizing that she is not choosing well. ⁣ ⁣ When you have high standards, you don’t settle for mediocrity. Therefore, you never have to change anyone. You simply enjoy the amazing people you ALLOWED to be around you. ⁣ ⁣ This is done out of love, self respect and care for herself. She knows people are unique and should be themselves always. (Cont. in comments)⁣ ⁣ #Purpose #passion #success #god #christian #feminine #feminineenergy #family #ambitious #millionaire #fyp #christian #believer #husband #wife #jesus #biblicalfemininity #biblicalmasculinity #feminineleadership #scaredmasculinegirl #confidentfemininewoman

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