I know my parents don't push me towards security because they don't love me. I know they love me, they have always pushed me towards security because they've been through war, famine and poverty.

The idea of doing something that you love, is incredibly foreign to my parents. They didn't get to do what they loved, they had to do what they could to stay alive. It's taken so many conversations with my parents to help them truly understand that we no longer live in such a dangerous place. After years of connecting, talking and listening - I was able to open my mum and dad's way of thinking.

About 4 years ago my dad comes up to me and said something that truly moved me... He said..

"Son, thanks for not giving up on your dreams and thanks for not giving up on us. Thank you for being patient and helping your mother and I understand this new world."

The relationship we have with our parents is one of the most special relationships. Don't give up on them, just because they don't immediately support you in your dreams - take the time to talk with them, explain to them, listen to them and be patient with them.

Throwback to my podcast with @kerwinrae 🫶
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askvinh

2024-04-28 03:50:09

this is a problem for so many asian families there are so many kids now in my culture
that are killing themselves
because they're doing something they hate
to please mum and dad
had a friend she studied medicine seven years kevin finished a degree is about ten years ago seven years she finished it she goes onto a dad after she got the green she goes
here's your fucking degree that
i'm going to go study music
and it's just so tragic that so many people in my culture kids are trapped trapped by this expectation that stems out of fear
our parents fear because they went from having everything taken away from them to come into a country
and then having the stuff from scratch so our parents out of fear
go for security
you know carl jung a great philosopher has got a great line where he says the greatest burden a child must bear is the unloved life of it's parents
and that's so
relevant to my culture