❌ Punishing a kid does NOT teach them what TO do or how we want them TO behave.

It just sends them into a ball of anger, fear, anxiety, or a place where they want vengeance! 🫣

It also can actually encourage them to shift the blame to someone else (to avoid upsetting you) or to become more sneaky to avoid getting caught next time they mess up.

Instead, TEACH your child lovingly, calmly, respectfully. I helped my son unzip the couch cushions and wash them. We talked about where to have drinks too 🤣

But in all seriousness, have you, as an adult, spilled or knocked something over without meaning to? Sure you have. Would punishing you make you remember to be careful with your coffee next time? No. You’d do your best (as all humans do) and sometimes you’d just MAKE A MISTAKE.

Can we stop holding our kids to higher standards than we have for ourselves please???

Thanks for coming to my TED talk 🤣🙏🏻

🌱🎙️ If you love this parenting stuff as much as me, please check out my NEW PODCAST! It just launched this month: Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto.

🩷 Steph.

.

#emotionalintelligence #eqcoach #parenting #parentcoach #author #parentingauthor #emotionallyintelligentparenting #momtherapist #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #speaker #consciousparenting #podcast