most human beings will come to me and say i want to find a relationship shaman derek why haven't i met the one i love and i always say to them no you don't you want a companion you don't want a relationship they go what do you mean i said a relationship means that you're willing to expose and to be transparent and to open yourself up for evolution you're not in a relationship just because you want to fill that lonely spot you're in a relationship for someone to show up who's able to see you clearly and be able to show you the places where you're not evolving right