think this is something men really underestimate when they are picking apart now they look for whoever they like and they think that they can change a woman and they think if they treat a woman well if you call her correctly she's all yours but i always say your competition is our childhood if she had a chaotic childhood you can give her an offer her the most ability there is to be found but she will reject it she will seek chaos and she will glorify chemistry whereas if you choose somebody's other stable upbringing lots of love