be financially independent have your own identity don't be dependent on anyone not even your own parents and i feel for me that has empowered me to make the decisions that i need to make the choices that i make i said before i get married i want to buy my own home and i said i have to do this for myself today whether i'm living in that home or not my parents and i've done it for them they'd be able to buy your first home it's a huge achievement it's a huge feeling that i was able to do this