you gotta hook up one day and your guy isn't going to be attracted to you anymore he isn't like that but the thing is again he's gonna outgrow you and there's nothing wrong with being a house mom and taking care of your kids and doing that but the thing is that you also have to have those conversations that allow them to grow because i mean i love taking care of my kids when i took care of my kids but if i didn't feel like i was growing and i just feel like i can have a conversation with him and all i did all he did was talk to everybody else about all the cool stuff he was doing and all i did was talk about our kids and we felt like we didn't have any ah any conversations above five years old than i felt like i was lost and treated to the last thing you want is for that newness wears off