most men are shying away from marriage today simply because it's a poor r o ai a poor return on investment our grandfathers and men for most of human history invested x and a woman and receive back value that matched that investment that's not the case today a man today is largely expected to make the same investments that a man-made in nineteen forty grandpa was expected to give up as other options and be monogamous invest financially in a wife and children work hard provide protect the same as is expected of men today but what grandpa got was a virgin that was raised in a society that still respected masculinity and thus she still respected grandpa and of course it was practically no chance of divorce the modern man makes the same investment but for far less and return what can he reasonably expect to be number twenty five to me number fifty to be