there's a period in everybody's journey where they are so different because they've started to do new things that they no longer fit in with the old set of friends but they're not sufficiently developed that they've gained their new set of friends and they're unsure should i go back she leaned back into getting a bargain with the boys on a weekend is that the highest way that i can live my life passion forward such everybody else does and all of my friends are taking the piss oh not drinking again too good for us are we not going out again this week oh okay well i enjoy staying home and reading fucking nerds so you're going to feel the pain of being ostracized from the group of friends that used to have but you're stuck in this messy middle way you haven't yet worked out who you are on the other side of this and that lonely chapter that's in the middle is something that i would say almost nobody that i've ever met who has gone from a place where they are to a place where they want to be hasn't gone through