ah to ruin your life in four easy steps step one always seek advice from people who are exactly where you don't want to be you'll get the finest tips on how to not better yourself step to constantly compare yourself to others no matter where you at compare yourself to those who are far ahead let's say ten or twenty steps ahead especially if you're just starting out it's a great way to set unhealthy comparisons and feel constantly unmotivated said three believed that everything happening to you is completely out of your control convincing yourself that you can change any aspect of your situation and that you just set to accept it is key step four avoid discomfort and challenges at all costs if something is already available don't bother pursuing it after all if it's outside your comfort zone it must be in a ship right now that you know how to ruin your life in four easy steps you can either follow them or do the exact opposite and change your life for the better