so whereas the super clingy wine won't give you the space and the super independent one won't give you the reassurance

so you need somebody who's in-between

and how you get those you look at her childhood if she's got secure family environment what happens is she recognizes that people can go away but they'll come back she trusts them

but if she's got the chaos she thinks if you go away she's gonna be

yeah so i need to find a girl who's

got good childhood in charla and i don't find out just ask i was always ask him just ask you can make so much difference a huge difference if people also don't realize the impact they would save themselves a lot of trauma and you don't think people change i think you don't need to change you need to accept i think why should we change people