That's an eye-opener for me 🫣

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#parenting #discipline #settingboundaries #raisingkids
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peaceful.mamabear

2024-03-31 16:14:57

ah boundary is something you tell someone you will do
and it requires the other person to do nothing i'll use my son as an example there's an
elevator where we live dough
for a while he'd get to the elevator in our building just press every button
and i would
be in the lobby and i'd say don't don't press the buttons
don't press the buttons you're not going to press the buttons
pressed
i'm gonna go back to the definition of boundaries a boundary is something i would tell my kid i will do and it would require my kid to do nothing
i was not setting a boundary
i was making a request understanding
when we're setting a boundary and when we're making a request actually helps us understand a listening problem
if i really don't want my kid to press those buttons and he's young and he just doesn't have
the ability to manage those urges
as they when we get into the elevator just so you know i'm gonna stand between you and the buttons
i'm just not gonna let you press all the buttons that is a boundary often those boundaries are physical
right if it's too hard to turn off the tv by the time i get over you for tio i will take the remote sweetie because screentime is over
and when we set an actual boundary you know what always prevents them had their mo let me have the remote i asked you for the remote i asked you for the remote why don't you give me the remote and then we say you know forget it no screentime tomorrow and then we're like the only one who suffers from that decision because actually i just didn't do my job in the beginning of setting a boundary