your partner has to be all in that's why you have a marriage vow
because the marriage vow is basically this
no matter what you tell me i won't run away
and that's a bitch of avowal man
because
when when someone unveils their whole heart they availed themselves all the way down to hell it's not
pleasant
it's awful
and so they need to know
that you will not run away and that's a vow because what do you know look
the person is always going to be thinking
always
if you really knew who i was he wouldn't love me he wouldn't be with me and you know
hey fair enough because people are full of snakes
and if all those snakes were revealed
perhaps the logical thing to do would run would be to run
and so then you might not you might say well why not run is like what you want wanna run from everyone for the rest of your life
you want to forgo the advantages of a permanent relationship and you're full of snakes too
so you're both making a bad bet
and so
you make the bad bet based based on the idea that if you are faithful and you are truthful that you can resolve the issues and you can't
it's a good deal