people loving us for who we are feels more real genuine caring empathetic and robust it feels like we're less fickle and more difficult to lose
on the other hand people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient the love that we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return
and the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return
would love be taken away
so here's an even more uncomfortable question
do you love you
for who you are
or for what you do
this highlights our hypocrisy you see we want the world to love us for who we are a balanced carrying view of our true value independent of our accomplishments
meanwhile
our own self-love is largely determined by what we do
if we fall short even though we know we tried our best we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient unworthy creatures
so we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves
you demand more than this demanded of your son
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