for example twelve-year-old is supposed to clean his room on tuesdays and saturdays okay and it's tuesday night it hasn't been done a smart parent without warning warnings or disrespectful acts there's another one that throws parents for a loop don't warn your kids some words written you're supposed to warn them i don't know where it is it's not good advice so hire ten year old sister to go clean twelve year old's room and pay for it out of twelve year olds allowance that's what i call let the reality of the situation become the teacher the child to be real frank he doesn't care for his sister that much to begin with and for him to find out that creep was even in his room he's not a happy dude now he loses five dollars out of his allowance for housekeeping services rendered you have his attention