you actually trying as hard as you can or you just doing enough to convince yourself that you are just enough to signal to your friends and family that you're doing it look there's a big difference between the appearance of effort and actual effort looking like you're doing it and actually doing people walk around talking about how hard they work how committed they are to their goals but despite the fact that they're not anywhere near where they want to be they still manage to have time to go out and party and watch netflix and hang out with friends this is the type of person that whenever they start a business or start a workout plan or start a diet they try it for two or three weeks and then it doesn't give them the instant gratification that they get from tick tock so they run around saying oh it wasn't for me i tried as hard as i can but it wasn't for me people that think like this will not accomplish anything they're going to do just enough to convince themselves that they tried to they can sleep at night