yeah because if we give you time to think about it you're gonna go back in your old habits anyway and also you gotta understand the person who actually wants better for you that's a person who actually cares about you it's hard when people take it at first because they think it's criticism your mind is really just convincing you like psychologically that you need to defend yourself yeah right oh i'm being attacked and being like if you're physically attack your body would have to respond to fight back or run like your mind is responding to that like i at my sense of identities being attacked who i am is being attacked but you want to change right so what we're really doing this we're attacking a limiting belief that who you believe you are