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elisebesler

2024-04-13 01:12:15

what to do when someone makes a joke about you
first of all if it makes you contract or shrink or feel small it wasn't a joke sarcasm and joking about people is a sign of insecurity and also a sign of a dysregulated nervous system second
what to say
my favorite responses was that funny to you
and then here's the tricky part
silence
say nothing
let them marinate
in their words
they might respond with something like just relax it was a joke i was just kidding
you could say something to them like
i was wondering if that was a joke it wasn't funny to me though
there are two things happening here you're holding your ground and they
get to think about what they said to you
i'm elise besler voice and communication coach and i help people take the kick out of speaking up through nervous system regulation
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