you're the nice guy does not turn up more in odd because the nice guy's passive the nice guys not fully engaged in life and i'm not speaking to a gentleman or a man that is kind and compassionate open-hearted i'm speaking to the nice guy syndrome which is a wound it's a wound of insecurity of low self-worth of low confidence it is a wound of unbelieving myself and i need a compensate i will become a people pleaser to make sure everyone else is okay but i don't care about myself and a man that doesn't care about himself and doesn't prioritize himself in healthy ways not completely narcissistic or self-absorbed ways or macedonian ways or from a place of psychopathy but from a healthy place for management prioritize himself he isn't look after himself doesn't look after his body doesn't capture his mind is not unwilling to explore acquiescence to life that passive energetic is not attractive for your thoughts