i wish i knew this earlier because it would've saved me so much pain but like you can make your life easier if you realize that no one actually has their shit together so let me explain i'm going to use me as the example whenever i meet a girl that i like actually like i convince myself that she's way better at life than i am that she has her shit totally figured out and that whatever judgment she makes has to be the truth and that's pretty problematic for a few reasons the main one being that then when inevitably she goes to me or whatever i convinced myself she's right and that i like i'm like a piece of shit or whatever at least i used to feel that way and it wasn't until i realized that like you know like they're not perfect they're all going through the same self-doubt and shit that you are so they're gonna make the same illogical brands decisions that you are which is why it's you know it's important not to get like too sad or turned up when people act in strange ways because even though you might have thought they were perfect like i usually just assume people are perfect they're not