this woman has trained sixteen thousand therapists she tells all of them when people come to you for help it will always be because they're telling themselves one or more of these three stories one i want something and i can't have it too i'm different so i can't connect or three most important one i'm not enough she teaches therapist to fix these in a single session rather than years of therapy her solution is so simple how yourself a better story one that empowers you and pushes you forward her key insight is that you have the power to shut down all the self talk that's hurting you and start talking to yourself the way you talk to someone you love